As you know, I am a fan of Neale Donald Walsch's books.
In one of his daily emails, he says that "Why is this happening?" is the most useless question in the Universe.
Instead, a good question is: What? As in "what do I choose now?"
Next time your first re-action to an event is "Why" ............ change your response to "What" ......... as in "what do I choose now."